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Edging
Deliberately easing off stimulation just before orgasm, then building arousal again. Used to extend pleasure and learn how arousal rises and falls.
Updated July 3, 2026
Edging (sometimes called peaking or surfing) means bringing arousal close to the point of orgasm, easing off before crossing it, and then building up again. The cycle can be repeated several times before choosing to finish — or not finishing at all.
Why people practice it
- Extending pleasure. Staying longer in a highly aroused state can make the eventual orgasm feel more intense.
- Learning your own arousal. Edging trains you to notice the stages of arousal instead of rushing past them, which is useful for anyone who wants more control over timing.
- Partner play. Guiding a partner close to orgasm and pausing together requires communication and attention — many couples use it as a trust exercise.
Consent and care
Agree on signals before you start, especially if one partner controls the pace for the other. Frustration is part of the game only when everyone opted into it; a simple “enough” should always end the round.